Masters of intuition and emotional manipulation, adept at body language, able to gauge the emotional temperature of a room quicker than our nipples stiffen in a breeze, you can bet on it that if he's on his way over, armed with courage and a pickup line, you were the one who lured him.

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The average man chooses from a maximum of 10 to attract a female. Just in case you're not, I've included the obvious, along with signals that are more subtle, secretive and (occasionally) downright loony.

When we first see someone we're attracted to, our eyebrows rise and fall. The whole thing lasts about a fifth of a second and it happens everywhere in the world — to everyone regardless of age, race or class.

This is what Judi James, author of "The Body Language Bible," says is a definite sign that someone is attracted to you -- and more specifically -- is thinking about kissing you.

Hand gestures can reveal a lot about how a date is going.

Getting to the baseline can take as little as three minutes.

Ask your date an easy question like what he wanted to be when he grew up or his greatest passion.

You lock eyes with the handsome man sitting across the dimly lit bar, and instantly, 1,000 questions rip roar through your mind — is he single? Is he sitting by himself simply because his date is late?

But when the eye contact continues, you know he's looking for a reason.

Body language is an essential ingredient of attraction. As a published Penguin author, Vanessa regularly speaks and appears in the media to talk about her research.