However, I’m not gonna play ball immediately because, you know, busy and important or not interested enough to invest the time in creating a solid response.(I don’t do half ass messages - I think it’s rude and doesn’t get anyone anywhere.)(3) I have some other, ah, in play and while I might be interested in you and what you have to say, I don’t have the mental capacity or the actual time to start up this process with a new person.

I asked her one question, and the response I received was pure gold. When you’ve got a bunch of emails to choose from, it’s pretty hard to select one that, in the one moment it has to advertise, offers only the word “(none)”. So, generally I’ll go back and find their original message, reread their new message, look at their profile, and decide whether to respond. I actually think it’s not a bad idea to send two emails to everyone you write, if you feel like spending that sort of time on Internet dating, and don’t mind veering dangerous close to serial killer zone.

You may think this applies only to men looking for women, or folks trying to attract someone a bit out of their league – but that isn’t so. Most captivating subject line in that assortment goes to…the guy who wrote “86”, I guess? I’ve just gone from spending 10-30 seconds on your email and probably not even looking at your profile to a few minutes thinking about you. But you gotta handle the second email just right (for suggestions, follow the link). A third email is a little too Bates Motel for Olivia’s tastes.

I don’t like responding via the app because I can’t type for shit on my i Phone and have made some really hideous typos in the past.

Like, typos you can never unsee.(2) I am on the fence about a person and figure if they are willing to put forth the effort in “chasing” me via OKC messages and have some good things to say, well that’s cool.

It’s not that it’s impossible that he was busy, or accidentally deleted your email, or had an emotional crisis that caused him to abandon dating for awhile.

Rather, it’s that, 99 times out of 100, a guy who doesn’t write back to you is a guy who isn’t attracted to you. Because women – especially younger women – receive infinitely more emails than men.I think that, honestly, the woman of my dreams probably doesn’t email people back right away. You’re becoming one of those deranged Internet daters who copy and paste every message, who live in a different state, who have only the loosest understandings of the English language, who never ever ever take “no” for an answer.Certainly not the people she encounters online dating. She has a demanding career in the field of writing for SNL/teaching literature/impersonating Jessica Biel/being the first female manager of the Boston Red Sox. And frankly, the girl of my dreams just doesn’t feel right if she can’t spend at least an hour a day parasailing/playing guitar/cleaning up oil spills/training to be the first female manager of the Boston Red Sox. That’s what people say to me when they ask if they can email someone twice.I've always seen no response as a polite no, but the more dating blogs I read, the more I see people complaining about overly persistent guys, which means tons of dudes are doing this, which makes me wonder, does this ever actually work? Is there even a hypothetical situation where, months down the road, a snubbed suitor could redeem himself on his second try? I think a lot of people wonder about this so I decided to get a male perspective too so we can get a little he said/she said thang going. has some thoughts but before we get to that, here’s my lady perspective:________________________________________________________I absolutely think it is ok to send a second message if you are genuinely interested in the person and have something worthwhile to say.(Worthwhile is the key word there.) There are plenty of reasons why I do not answer first messages:(1) I’m like, really busy and important and sometimes I check messages on the app on my phone and forget to respond later.Dear Ynez, Allow me to answer your second question first, because it’s a lot quicker: No. So, in essence, you’re saying something as clichéd as “I like to laugh” or “I want a man who’s honest.” It’s a pointless point, and is one that’s bound to be ignored.