But in order to avoid painful misunderstandings (like a guy you end up wanting to be with feeling betrayed when he finds out you had dated other people while you dated him) here's some additional advice on how to exercise tact.

It’s true on e Harmony that the more people you communicate with, the faster you will find the person who is right for you.

But for others, they have to date someone many times, maybe even over weeks or months, to know whether there’s chemistry in the air—and they may need to date several people before they finally feel that “click.” If you immediately exclude all other guys or gals from the moment you have your first lunch date with someone until his or her annoying laugh causes you to bolt two months later, you may have to go through several mini-relationships in a row before you’re done. Going on dates with a few different good candidates around the same time helps you find out fast who’s wrong, without forcing you to wait and wait and wait to find out who’s right.

It Allows you to Compare and Contrast Life’s dating opportunities can be like a smorgasbord where everything looks pretty good—and like a smorgasbord, seeing all the opportunities out in front of you at once allows you to be selective.

While this may be true of some women who are dating multiple people, I actually believe that there are many good (and, in fact, great) reasons to date several different people when you're single.

I even think that dating many people might be one of the best ways to find the one person you are really looking to find.

Nina, a 25-year-old accountant living in Chicago, started hers after a four-year relationship ended. And, Monica*, a 25-year-old producer in New York City, can also echo the experience.

I want to talk about multiplicity in your dating life. They think someone who dates several people at once must be a cheater, a commitment-phobe or at a minimum, a liar.

Many seemed to be interested in cultural differences and resulting problems in the relationship between a foreign woman and a Japanese man.

Although I’ve been in Japan for 6 years now, I totally lack that kind of experience.

“I moved to Japan when I was 18 and have been dating Asian guys ever since. I often hear girls who long for Asian boyfriends say that Western guys are dogs, and I can confidently say that Asian men are no different.