But that’s tricky because gals are torn over tab sharing: Some are reluctant to pay while others are adamant about their ability to pay.

Chastity and honor were the virtues of the day for women in the Middle Ages.

Courtship as we now know it was not common during the time of Queen Elizabeth I in England.

by the publishing house of Dick & Fitzgerald of New York presents more letter forms for refusing a proposal than it presents for encouraging a suitor!

To readers today the index titles for these letters sound wildly humorous.

Consider the titles "Refusal on the grounds of dislike", "Refusal on the grounds of unsteadiness of the suitor", and "Refusal on the grounds that the suitor is much younger than herself".

Upon careful thought, however, these letters can be seen to be sober testimony to the general tenor of society in the third quarter of nineteenth century America.How did your grandparents and great-grandparents court and fall in love?These days, couples in Western countries usually date casually — though online matchmaking has recently changed the face of dating and courtship dramatically — but traditionally, there were formal courtship rituals that evolved over the ages.There are usually flowery forms for written proposals from the suitor as well as a plethora of gushing acceptances from the bride-elect.Near the end of the section there is generally one curt letter of refusal to a marriage proposal.“There are many more pitfalls for males than females,” said Janet Lever, a sociologist at California State University in Los Angeles who helped write and interpret the study.